How much money should I give as a birthday gift?
Birthday money
It appears that the general amount for a birthday celebration is around $25, no matter the relationship. Money etiquette experts suggest spending $10 to $20 for classmates while expanding the budget to $25 for close friends, $50 for relatives and upwards of $100 for your own children.
For a single gift to your close & immediate family, consider a budget of about $20-$40. This is flexible, and for big milestones (Mom's 50th, kids 18th, quinceañeras) you may have reason to spend more. For multiple gifts, perhaps for your own kids' birthdays, consider pushing the total budget up to the $50 range.
For good friends, experts say $15 to $25 is an appropriate amount, but reduce the amount spent if you plan to give gifts to more than two or three friends.
Gifting pro says: Samantha Worrell, a Flower Mound mom who founded a gift concierge business called The Gift Tailor (thegifttailor.com), recommends $20–$25. She suggests a trendy accessory or toy for younger kiddos, and for older kids using this amount for a gift card at a popular store.
While most etiquette experts agree that $20-$30 is perfectly reasonable for a child's birthday gift, you can spend up to $100 on the child of a close friend or relative, says Helen Holden, founder of Counting Candles, a website that helps parents plan birthday parties.
For co-workers, casual friends and your children's teachers, stay in the $10 to $20 range. Gift cards for close friends and family members can range from $25 to $100. When you're selecting a gift card for a spouse, parent or someone else who's very special, choose a card worth $75 or more.
What is the 7-gift rule? It is the concept of buying only a set number of gifts for each individual, with each gift falling into a specific category. As you may have to guess, the specific number of gifts for this rule is 7. You buy one gift to fit in each category and by the end; you have 7 gifts to give.
Annual Gift Tax Limits
The annual gift tax exclusion of $17,000 for 2023 is the amount of money that you can give as a gift to one person, in any given year, without having to pay any gift tax. You never have to pay taxes on gifts that are equal to or less than the annual exclusion limit.
One popular tactic is to have your kids narrow their gift lists to just three categories: something they want (say, a new video game), something they need (like a puffer coat) and something to read (the Ramona series has been calling their name).
Close Friend
You don't want to under or overspend (although it's probably always better to spend a bit more than a bit less). On average, spending $25-$75 on a close friend is a good rule of thumb. Although you might want to spend closer to the $25 mark if you plan on giving gifts to two or three close friends.
How much should I spend on my girlfriends birthday gift?
If you're hoping for an average figure, most people spend $100 on their partner. But if they've really made the nice list this year, $150 to $300 is a good ballpark number if you can swing it.
Giving money as a gift—or even asking for money as a gift—used to be considered tacky. But not anymore. "Money is an appropriate gift," says etiquette expert Elaine Swann, founder of The Swann School of Protocol. "Studies say that it is the most welcomed gift—the one gift that most people want."

Giving a Raise: Age 10 or 11
So how much allowance should you give? Levine recommends 50 cents to a dollar for every year of age, on a weekly basis. For example, a 10 year old would receive $5 to $10 per week. As your child grows, so should his responsibility for his own discretionary spending.
A commonly used rule of thumb for paying an allowance is to pay children $1 to $2 per week for each year of their age. Following this rule, a 10-year-old would receive $10 to $20 per week, while a 16-year-old would get $16 to $32 per week.
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In general, $10 per year of age is a good rule of thumb! Once you have a guideline for how much you have to spend on each person that fits within your annual budget goal, write those amounts down on your gift tracker. Now you have a monthly amount planned to set aside for birthday expenses!
If you ask the internet, the numbers are all over the place. For your kid's party, many experts still recommended the “Age Plus One” rule for number of guests (so if your kid is turning four, they can invite five guests) and parents seem to fall anywhere from $100 to $500.
Whereas cash is a non-personal transaction, the giving and receiving of a gift card can be personalised to the individual by adding your company logo, the individual's name, and even a short message. Doing so will help reinforce the reason for the reward and help the recipient remember who it was from.
People buying gift cards actually do have good intentions. The majority (57%) of Americans who buy gift cards as gifts do so because they actually think it's the best gift for that person, according to the research.
Overall, gift cards seem to be more popular among gift givers than receivers. Many consider gift cards to be impersonal gifts that give the impression that the gift giver is lazy. There are also reservations about giving gift cards that might accumulate fees, decrease in value, or expire too soon.
What is the 10 gift rule?
Other parents have come up with variations such as the Rule of 10, adding six more gifts to the original four: something to wear on your feet, something to make, something to do, something to play as a family, something to give to others, and something to do for others.
The five gift rule says that you should give five gifts to your loved ones: one for each of the following categories: something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read, and a special gift.
Like we've mentioned before, the annual exclusion limit (the cap on tax-free gifts) is a whopping $16,000 per person per year for 2022 (it's $17,000 for gifts made in 2023). So, even if you do give outrageously, you wouldn't have to file a gift tax return unless you went over those limits.
The law completely ignores 2022 gifts of up to $16,000 per person, per year, that you give to any number of individuals. (You and your spouse together can can make joint gifts up to $32,000 per person, per year to any number of individuals.)
Are the days of rampant spending on children at Christmas coming to an end? A trend which has gained traction over the past few years on social media is the "four gift rule". Parents pledge to give their offspring just four presents: Something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read.
The 4 gift rule is very simple: you get each of your children something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read. Depending on your kid's age, you might ask for their input on some or all of these gifts, or you might choose them all yourself.
According to a November 2022 study, most parents are budgeting $220 for each child—with the highest budgets for 7 to 12-year-olds, though 28% of those surveyed are trying to keep it below $100.
The average American spent $514 on gifts for family members in 2021. That's approximately 58% of the average total amount spent on gifts in 2021, meaning that Americans spend the majority of their holiday budget on family members.
We recommend gifts that cost no less than $50 and do not exceed $100. A gift under $50 may not relay your appreciation. However, gifts over $100 each could guilt an employee rather than show appreciation and may seem too flashy. Recognizing personal milestones is a great way to help a team feel connected.
Why do we give money on birthdays?
On certain occasions — birthdays, anniversaries, dinner parties, the end of the year — it's customary. Underlying that custom is an important purpose: appreciation. We give people gifts to show them that we are grateful for them and value the role they play in our lives.
Some say asking for money is a definite no-no, while others don't mind at all. It seems the answer to this question depends on who you ask. Brides, guests and etiquette gurus have all had their say, and it appears that neither of them is in agreement.
If someone is spending so much to make his/her guests enjoy on his/her special day, it is the duty of the guests to give a birthday gift in return. Hence, one should never go to a birthday party without a gift. Everyone has a way to express love and most of the time, it is expressed by presenting something.
Though a cash-stuffed card may be an increasingly popular sight at children's birthday parties, Ms. Post says the choice of gift ultimately lies with the giver. "The gift you make is the choice you make as the giver. You might have a gazillion reasons why you don't want to give cash, so don't give cash."
Giving money is fine as a birthday gift and there's also giving gift cards as an alternative if you know where the recipient of the gift loves to shop.
Generally, $10 to $100 is a safe amount for a birthday gift.
How much should you spend? That all depends on whether the gift is off the registry, an experience, or cash. Upon consulting the experts, a wedding gift should range from $75 to $750—but most agree that $300+ is the sweet spot.
You can give up to the annual exclusion amount ($16,000 in 2022) to any number of people every year, without facing any gift taxes or filing a gift tax return. If you give more than $16,000 in 2022 to someone in one year, you do not automatically have to pay a gift tax on the overage.
Whereas cash is a non-personal transaction, the giving and receiving of a gift card can be personalised to the individual by adding your company logo, the individual's name, and even a short message. Doing so will help reinforce the reason for the reward and help the recipient remember who it was from.
You should always include a card with a gift. It's an extra touch for the recipient that makes the gift more personal. On a practical note, including a card also ensures that the recipient will know who the gift was from. Everyone has received a gift and not known whom to thank.
Should you pay for everything on your birthday?
To celebrate your birthday, you invite a group of friends to dine at your favorite restaurant. Here's the general rule of thumb that most etiquette experts can agree on: Whoever does the hosting does the paying. So, in this situation, hosting your own birthday meal means volunteering to cover the bill.
Like we've mentioned before, the annual exclusion limit (the cap on tax-free gifts) is a whopping $16,000 per person per year for 2022 (it's $17,000 for gifts made in 2023). So, even if you do give outrageously, you wouldn't have to file a gift tax return unless you went over those limits.
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